We women are communicative beings. We love communication and talking about most anything. We love book clubs. We make up the majority of audiences for talk shows. The point is, we like to dissect every word, behavior and look. When we argue, we need an hour or so, a cup of tea (maybe spiked) to work out our problems. Men on the other hand usually need very little time, (sometimes minutes) the facts and that’s it. We would just like guys to explain with details and emotions what they feel and think. It really seems very simple. Women want to talk about it for awhile, maybe even have a cry on your shoulder.
We don’t like the answer “NO” to an idea we have hurled at us while the attention is focused on the handy tools at Wal-Mart. Women want to feel like you care and know where they are coming from. You know, we want you to get inside our heads and feel what we feel if it is important to us. Yes, I know women are more complicated, but we just want to feel like a guy really cares. We tend to over think things, so just ease our ever-buzzing minds and provide us with explanations.
If you are going to cancel on us, or make a decision regarding our plans, or just scoot one inch over on the couch…we just want to know why. Maybe if a guy would elaborate about his tough week, his boss almost firing him, or a demotion, we might not react if we are a low priority at times. We just do not want to stay a low priority and be compared to the neighborhood cat.
When we are close to a man we want to share our problems. We hope for support and advice to follow. If not, don’t be surprised if you are sleeping in the dog house next to fido. Sorry guys, we are just wired differently. We want to know what is on your mind and schedule. Make it up if you have to, but tell us “something”and certainly more than a one word answer….or zero phone calls. It could really keep your girlfriend away from the local happy hour crowd in search of conversation.
