It is the season for spending time together, cuddling by a fire and exchanging gifts. There are more break- ups around the holidays than anytime of the year – Valentine’s Day comes in at second place. Did you know that a gift often signifies where you are in a relationship or disappoint some who had different expectations of their relationship? What does a Holiday gift mean? His gift might be a good indication if he is “really into” you.● A Gift Certificate. Unwrapping a gift certificate can be unexciting but if it’s to your favorite store it’s a good sign! He’s paying attention and wants to be sure you have something you really love.
● Kitchen Towels, Blenders and Practical Gifts. Take all his bonus points away, unless you specifically asked for these trendy Kitchen towels or gadgets hot off the assembly line. He is either lazy or doesn’t want to take the time to figure out what puts the giddiness in your step for the holidays. I once had a girlfriend who after dating a guy for a year, received a decorative plate to put on the shelf. How apparent are the “no commitment” signs attached to that gift.
● Jewelry. When a guy buys you jewelry, you can bet you mean something. Bling-bling isn’t cheap! If he doesn’t really care he will not spend the money. If he does, he is giving something personal that creates a memory of a special occasion you have shared together. This usually is a sign he is in for the long haul. C’mon guys diamonds are emotionally bonding and a girl’s best friend.
● Chocolates, Sweets and Roses. This is a great gift to get when you have not known each other too long. It obviously means he has a romantic attraction to you. He is wooing you into something more.
● A Puppy or Pet. Getting a furry little one is a BIG sign of an emotional tie in a relationship. This guy is showing tendencies for a commitment by wanting to share a responsibility together.
Relationships go through stages of infatuation, discovery of faults, to acceptance and real love. If you are in the 0-3 month stage, keep it light. You are still infatuated and 70% of you will not make it past 6 months. Don’t go over-board. You might regret it, especially if you are not exclusive. If you are exclusive and are at the 4-6 month stage, your lives are really starting to intertwine. Your gift should reflect something romantic on a more personal side. If you have made it to the 7-9 month stage, you are past infatuation and the discovery of flaws you potentially could live with. The glue is definitely sticking making this relationship a team. Go ahead and let your hair down to mark the significance of your relationship (Jewelry time guys, hint-hint). If you are at 10+ months, congratulations you are in a serious relationship. You may have the potential of growing old together (old is a relative term). Your gift should reflect short and long term plans together, trips with kids, fine jewelry, etc. Times are tough, so do not think you have to break the bank. A thoughtful gift that involves much time and effort many times resonates more than the expensive gift that required little effort or thought. Cliché, but often it is the thought that counts!
Getting a Christmas or Hanukah gift from that special someone is exciting, especially if you really care about them. Knowing that a lot of thought was put into the choice makes it even more special! Here’s hoping that you get warm contentment as you open that gift from your special someone this holiday season!
