Men seem to love to rob the cradle at any age, from young upward mobiles to the flirty eighty year old in the nursing home. Research in the journal called Evolution and Human Behavior found that a majority of men from 20-50+ prefer younger women, whereas women favored men their own age or older—except for cougars, of course. This statistic debunks the growing popular “ cougar myth,” but enforces the idea that creepy old men will always be hitting on you-even if you are their daughter’s age. This is really depressing for us ladies that are approaching 50 and are someone’s daughter’s age. We get the attention of 70 year olds who are looking for a caretaker to eventually wheel them around in their wheelchair. While love is possible with large age gaps it is not probable and here is why:
1. Fantasy love fades usually within a year. The geezer is in love with her looks and youthful spirit, not to mention a firm squeeze. Eventually when he realizes all they have in common is the roof over their heads both will want a relationship with substance. A lot of meaningful conversations, commonality, and being best friends carry you through the long haul after the initial goose bumps start to fade.
2. Geezers may feel young, but dating younger women will not make them younger. Women or men’s wrinkles do not disappear regardless of Botox. The darn things still keep showing up in the mirror.
3. Older men and younger women sort of use each other like a business arrangement. He’s got money, assets, status, and security. She’s got beauty and youth. IF the money runs out, she most likely will break the lease. He will be left with an empty wallet and with his arms around a tree.
4. Perhaps she does love him for his patience, maturity, gentleness and understanding. Having an older man dote with attentiveness is definitely euphoric. Men her own age might lack these abilities and be more self absorbed. Still, when have you seen an attractive young woman with a destitute old man?
5. Different energy levels. At 10 p.m. he is falling asleep with a book and glasses on his nose. She has her dancing duds on and wants to go out and socialize. If he can’t keep up most likely she will find someone who will.
While there are exceptions to the rule with big age differences often it does not work out because of maturity levels, goals and interests. There are a lot of poachers online who significantly lie about their age hoping to snag a young one. The odd thing is that when it comes to online dating men get frustrated and become quitters. In an article in Men’s Health, 97 percent gave up after three months. Is it really that hard, fellas? It is just a lot of browsing, clicking and typing. No wonder the pool of decent online hopefuls isn’t so large.
Another interesting fact, according to Men’s Health, is that guys last about 27 minutes, which is the number of minutes the average American couple spends steaming up the sheets in one session. What do you think, should we call the French for advice? This might sound cynical but maybe the best way to look at it is that is exactly how long it takes before a woman can get some SLEEP.
